| Hey guys, i'm back but with a qns...
I got a fren who have trouble loving her gf, Gina*, whole heartedly even b4 anyone else comes along. They have been having problems eversince 1 and a half yrs ago. Thus the guy broke up with Gina* a month ago. However, the guy ran into a big trouble lately, he was upset. Gina came in to comfort him and see him thru, and so they patched back. Then he came another girl, Pauline. He seems to be interested in Pauline, but Pauline likes 4 other guys including him(which he only found out recently). However Pauline is still thinking abt her ex stead which is one of the 4 of them. Pauline even asked his ex to if wanna patch back with her, but his ex reply her saying he is confused and cun make a decision yet. Besides, from Pauline he found out that her good fren Xena* (whom Xena introduced Pauline to him one) once like him very much. Xena has some troubles like trying to get over her ex at times and study difficulties(which he is trying to help her at ).Then Xena feels like being a les... Xena is longing for someone to care for her... Thus, Pauline is encouraging/trying to put the two together (in which she got alittle jealous seeing him treating Xena quite well at times, and thus told him about her own feelings about him and other 3 guys). However, he himself really wanted to help Xena out of her problems yet he was afraid that by doing so he might unknowingly fall for her. So he confessed everything to Xena, and Xena told him that he only treated him as a brother. So he felt better.
Till now, he n Gina's relationship is deterioting, both did not want that to happen but it happened. Gina found out abt what happened between him and Xena and Pauline. Gina is hurt, he is guilty and sorry. Gina did not want to get hurt anymore, neither she wants to drag the hurt nor to hurt him(as Gina hurt him many times b4). Gina is utterly confused, Gina did not know whether to give up a very long relationship or to try perservere n improve on the relationship. Gina's hopes of a wonderful relationship is gone. Yet Gina is still trying to do whateva she can to salvage the relationship. the guy too, tried his best, but it never seem to improve. The couple did not know whats wrong. Thus the couple have to make a painful decision whether to continue or not, in 2 weeks time. As for the guy he felt very guilty and hurt, for he did not wish to see his long time relationship to be gone, yet he do not want the hurt to drag on. In his mind if Gina broke up with him he'll try to determine to forget abt Gina and then maybe he'll go for Pauline, however he do not want to make use of Pauline to forget Gina. He doesn't want to hurt others nor cheating himself. Moreover going for Pauline would make his friendship with Xena abit weird. And If he continue with Gina, he may either continue to work on their relationship or continue to drag on... Moreover if he continues to help Xena, he may risk falling for her... Therefore the whole situation may seems complicated and sticky...
Thanks for taking ur time reading... What would u do if u r him?? I know this is complicated, I'm just asking for others points of view to such situation of my fren... Hope it could widen up his perception...Thanks!!*all names are fake. |
